Sexual Super Powers

Bat your lashes, show a little skin, smile with your eyes and bite your lip. As women, there has probably been several occasions that you've used your sexual powers. The topic came up in conversation the other day when I was having lunch with Elke. The topic swirled in her head as she realized that men were practically hypnotised when they ranted about a specific teacher. However upon taking the class, she realized that the teacher's sexual energy was oozing everywhere and the men were obviously eating it up. Which makes me wonder, are we misusing our sexual super powers?

Now I've seen men slap on the charm and maybe its just different with women rather than more. I'll admit that I have used these powers to my advantage. In fact, the day that I got my bag stolen from my car, I had batted my lashes so that someone could give me their private parking spot right outside a restaurant. Oh, I knew exactly what I was doing. Later, my bag along with all my vanity within it was stolen - ironic really.

[Our lunch arrives]

Yum.

Our hungry minds needed some fuel and this was mine on that day. Now it isn't too often that I have soy. In fact, since I've started writing, I've included only one soy recipe. Generally I find it doesn't sit well with people, is highly processed and a major allergen. However because we were at a vegetarian restaurant, I wanted a little more substance with my greens and opted for a little triangle of grilled tofu...couldn't hurt really. I swear that I try really hard to order something different every time I go to Fresh, but I keep going back to the Green Goddess every time. It's likely the mix of bok choy, broccoli, kale, seaweed, ginger and tahini sauce that gets me and makes my liver happy. Greens as you've heard me rant about, is where it's at. Since broccoli and kale both belong to the brassica family, always be mindful to cook them. They're goitrogenic which means they have the ability to inhibit the thyroid gland when eaten in excess. Broccoli simply put is super woman food. It naturally contains indole 3 carbinol which removes bad estrogens, has twice as much vitamin C than an orange and has more absorbable calcium than a glass of milk.

Sorry, I digress...food has the tendency to distract me.

Stuffing my face I remembered when Megan Fox, was actually quoted in saying that she felt her sexual powers were almost, "supernatural" and that she never knew if she'd ever get "comfortable with it". Funny, the article featured a photo of her straddling a white teddy bear belly down with nothing but a thong...hmmm...she's looking pretty comfortable to me.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that we should suppress our sexual energy because it's bad. There are positives aspects to it. In fact, it is a precursor to creativity and drive. Take animals for example: after they've been neutered they become completely docile. This isn't new news. Even in a medicine as old as Ayurveda (dating back 5,000 years), the sacral chakra which lies just below the abdomen is said to govern sexual and creative energy.

So with this knowledge, there needs to be some caution. Those individuals charged with an immense amount of sexual energy need to be careful since far too often it's channeled incorrectly. It may be controlled or submerged, but its very nature causes it to seek out means of expression. Unfortunately many individuals will seek out a less worthy outlet like sleeping around with everyone they're attracted to. Harnessing sexual power certainly calls for a lot of will power. When an orgy of overindulgence is created, men in particular become robbed of their jing or essence as believed in Chinese Medicine. Certainly I'm not telling you to be abstinent and become an artist, but rather to analyze how you use your sexual powers and if they're serving you in a way that's propelling you forward in life. Because when we're aroused, our senses become heightened and we become alive and feel energized. All those qualities when applied to creativity of the mind can produce inspiration to grow from.

The problem is that talking about sex, particularly in North America is taboo with the general population which sets the stage for confusion from youth and the reliance on media to dictate how they should expend their energy. Sexual powers are then misused, STD's become ramped and abuse is inflicted by the self and by others.

Sex is everywhere and we all know that it sells. Take the name of this column for example: SEXY food therapy. People are drawn in and some are under the false impression that my writing is about how to improve their sexual performance through aphrodisiac foods. It isn't until they read further that they realize the positive connection that is attempted to provide light on love, sex and our emotional connections to food. Writing is my outlet along with cooking. We can find fuel for depleted sexual energy through foods like black sesames (particularly the paste) and E3 Live which is a blue green algae that fuels our kidneys which in Chinese Medicine has a role in governing sexuality. Other than food, it can be directed into martial arts where certain practices of Qi Gong and Tai Qi require abstinence for one year so that sexual energy can be guided to fuel their practice. It measures will, strength and discipline.

Certainly, I'm not telling you to go cold turkey or go on a 1-year sexual hiatus. Sex rather is a beautiful thing that needs to be given credit and removed from the dirty stigma that's latched on for years. It connects us to our core, drives, challenges and speaks to us. If we can figure out how to properly guide it, we can then through positive action, get into bed with life. From there we'll be able to discover the orgasmic triumph that is received when we're propelled forward...which makes us want to do it again and again...

Now that's sexy...